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Ways To Build Self Confidence

It is important to have self-confidence for a lot of reasons. Firstly, when you have self-confidence you will start to feel more positive in life and will be more likely to do new things or return to things that you enjoy that you may have stopped doing. You are also likely to have better self-worth, which is the key to having good confidence.

Having great self-worth will also help you find things easier when it comes to being confident. When you are confident you are taking back control of your life, and help yourself to achieve what it is you want to achieve in life.

We are going to be looking at ways that will help you to build your confidence. You will learn more about yourself and hopefully, will start to feel more positive and do more things that used to scare you. Building your confidence can lead to many new possibilities as you will be in a different mindset to achieve your goals.

1. Kill Negative Thoughts

If you had a friend who had been going through a hard time and constantly put themselves down, would you talk to them the way that you talk to yourself?

If the answer that that question is no, you need to start getting rid of your own negative thoughts. When you are constantly having negative thoughts about yourself or the situation you may be in, it can really affect you from achieving your goals and building your confidence.

You need to kill these thoughts, they will come into your head as this is normal, but you must not dwell or listen to them, instead, acknowledge them and then let them go.

2. Get To Know Yourself

When you can understand yourself, your thoughts, and your self-worth, you can start to work towards improving it. If you have negative thoughts, acknowledge them and write them down, you can then reflect on them and see what you can change to make your self-worth grow.

If you do not take time to listen to yourself and understand how much you put yourself down, you will not know how to change it for the better.

This is why it may be good for you to write in a journal, as you will be able to see your thoughts and the way you treat yourself physically in front of you and can work on improving it for the better.

3. Change Your Body Language

It is true that changing your posture, smiling, or even making eye contact can instantly make you feel and look more confident. Others will also see that you look more confident too.

If you can imagine a confident person, you would normally envision someone who is happy, gives good eye contact, and is standing up straight with their head held high. If you are talking to someone while not giving them eye contact, staring at the floor, and maybe fiddling with your bag or hair, you will give off the impression that you are not confident, making it known to others but also to yourself. Acting as though you have great confidence can actually help you to build it.

4. Create A Positive Support Network

If you surround yourself with people who make you feel bad or knock you down, you are not going to be able to build your confidence.

Being around negative people will only bring you down, and make you lose more confidence. You need to surround yourself with people who lift you up instead of bringing you down. Having a supportive network is a great way to boost confidence as it will make you feel more positive and start to feel better about yourself. This will help you to gain confidence and start to improve your self-esteem.

5. Practice Self Care

You need to look after yourself in order to feel good and have great self-worth. Being able to look after yourself and practice self-care could be having some ‘me time', which could include a bubble bath, pamper session, or reading your favourite book .

Looking after yourself will help you feel so much better, and when you are feeling positive and in a good headspace, you can start to work on your confidence.

Doing things you like to do and treating yourself with respect is great self-care, and self-care determines the self-worth you have. All of these things come hand in hand and are needing to help build confidence and self-esteem.

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Love your blog girl!


Love this Gabriella!


Good read. Thank you Gabriella. 🥰


That is so true!

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